@MistressAntonellaBdsmBDSM GUIDE
Zapper is a term that is a synonym to slave or submissive.
The wooden horse is a commont item of BDSM furniture that consists of two wooden planks joined together at a sharp angle, in order to create pressure on a bottom’s genitals while bound to it as feet often can’t touch the floor.
WAM stands for Wet and Messy and it is a form of sexual play involving different quantity of food.
Waterboarding is the act of pouring water over a submissive’s face while being restrained on their back. The purpose is to feel the sensation of drowning. This is an edge play form so, it requires an experienced mistress like myself to do it in optimal and safety conditions.
Voice play is basically a form of psychological play that describes the mistress using a particular tone of voice in order to receive a response from the slave.
A vixen is basically a woman whose partner, usually a man, called Stag, enjoys watching that woman gaining sexual gratification with another man. It differs from cuckolding as it doesn’t include humiliation.
Violet Hand represents a device used in electrical play.
Vampirisim represents the fact of deriving sexual pleasure from blood play, in many forms.
Urolagnia is the arousal that comes from playing with urine, especially in public spaces.
Troilism is similar to cuckoldism, by deriving pleasure from watching one’s partner having sex with someone else, sometimes without the third party’s knowledge.
Trichophilia is a term that describes someone’s sexual interest in hair.
Transvestophilia represents the sexual interest of someone in transvestites.
Transvestism describes the sexual pleasure coming from cross dressing.
A throuple represents a poly dynamic that consists of three people who share equal partnership and is often called triad.
Technosexuality is the attraction towards people dressed as robots or actual robots.
Taphephilia is a sexual interest in being buried alive.
Often the opening element from an abduction play or kidnapping play, the Takedown represents the scene or scenario in which the slave is being pursued, caught and restraint.
Symorophilia describes the sexual interest in staging disasters (like car accidents) or watching disasters happen and gaining sexual satisfaction.
Sploshing is a type of play in which copious amounts of food are being used.
A spider gag is a form of a gag, that has a metal ring at the center and outward.
Quirofilia is someone’s sexual interest in hands. They would get off on fisting, handjobs, massage or fingering and even through typing on a laptop.
As the name says it, prostate massage is the act of stimulating the prostate by using a finger or an object. The goal is either to enhance orgasm or to force ejaculation without orgasm.
A plushie is someone who loves to play with stuffed animals, like toys.
Microbranding represents the act of using a small heated poker in order to create a series of dots. This is considered a temporary form of body modification.
Mental bondage is a form of a psychological bondage, the slave remains in a position through instructions only.
Menophilia is one’s sexual interest in anything regarding menstruation.
The glory hole represents a hole in the clothes that allows quick sex, often in public places like bathrooms.
A forced orgasm is the act of getting a person to orgasm against his/her will, or in spite ot their instruction not to climax, known as orgasm denial.
Fluid exchange is often an activity where fluid transfer may happen, like sexual intercourse, oral sex, blood play or kissing.
Failsafe is a term used in bondage, that allows the slave to escape the arrangement in case of emergency.
Facesitting, as the name says, is the act of one sitting with his/her genitalia on another’s face, generally in order to facilitate oral sex.
Erotic Asphyxiation, as the name says by itself, is one’s sexual interest in asphyxia, either on oneself or on others. It also is named Breath Play.
A dragon’s tail, in BDSM, represents a sort of whip that has a handle, usually with a triangular piece of suede or leather. This actually forms a tapered hollow point at the striking end.
Doraphilia is the sexual interest in skin, leather or fur.
Dendrophilia is someone’s sexual interest in trees.
Degradation is an act of disrespecting somebody or treating him/her with contempt.
Dacryphilia represents one’s sexual interest in crying or at the sight of tears.
Cupping is the act of using suction devices on the body, like glass suction cups.
A cuckold is the term for a man whose female partner has sex with other men, sometimes involving some level of humiliation. It is similar to troilism.
Coprolalia is the sexual arousal that is caused by using profanity, like shit, bitch, fuck, etc.
Collaring represents a commitment between a slave and a mistress, submissive and dominant.
Chronophilia represents the sexual interest in having sexual partners of various age range, of a widely differing chronological age range.
CFNM (Clothed Female Naked Male) is a scenario in which the mistress or the dominant, if you like, is wearing clothes, whilst the slave (submissive) must be naked. This increases the sense of vulnerability. The slave is usually subject to tortures and different BDSM treatments.
Catheterophilia is a form of sexual interest in the act, watching or even thought of using a catheter to gain sexual pleasure.
Castration Play is a form of mental BDSM that simulates an act or/and effect of castration. This can involve Cock & Ball Torture, also known as CBT, banding or infibulation.
Capnolagnia is the sexual pleasure (arousal) that is caused by watching other people smoke.
Candaulism is a deriving sexual pleasure from watching somebody’s wife having sex or engaging in any sexual activity with another person.
BYOT, as the name says by itself, Bring Your Own Toys, is a term used mostly in relation to Play Party invitations that one would attend.
Breeding refers to someone’s fantasy in which women are solely used for impregnation, this refering also to ejaculation in unprotected sex.
BORK is an acronym, less commonly used, for an approach to Play within KINK/BDSM. Very similar to edge play, it involves acknowledgement of high risk, even with proper maintenance or equipment.
Boot Blacking is the polishing or cleaning of leather boots and/or shoes. This act is done by the submissive (the slave) to show care for his/her mistress.
Body worship is mainly someone’s respect shown to every part of somebody else’s body parts, like licking, sucking or kissing.
Basoexia is the sexual arousal derived from kissing.
Banding is a cock and ball torture form that uses tight bindings around the testicles that restrict bloodflow. This is often part of Castration Play.
Avisodomy represents one’s sexual interest/behaviour with birds.
Autonepiophilia is one’s sexual interest in imagining oneself or dressing as an infant.
Autogynephilia is the sexual interest of a biological male who imagines himself as being a female.
Autoandrophilia represents the sexual interest of a biological female who imagines herself as a male.
Auralism is getting sexual pleasure from a particular sound, like a sound effect, music or a voice.
Asphyxiophilia is the sexual interest in asphyxiation or strangulation. This involves a lot of risks so it should be done by experts, such as an experienced mistress like myself.
Archnephilia is basically sexual interest in spiders.
Anililagnia is the sexual attraction young men have for older women.
Andromimetophilia is one’s sexual interest in trans people.
Amychophilia is one’s sexual interest in scratching and being scratched.
Algolagnia is arousal caused by pain, involving an erogenous zone. It differs from masochism because the pain itself causes arousal, rather being subject to pain.
Agalmatophilia is one’s sexual interest in statues or mannequins. It is very similar to technosexuality.
Acomoclitism is the sexual pleasure derived from hairless genitalia.
Ablutophilia is one’s sexual interest in baths and showers.
Abduction Play is basically a scene or, if you like, a scenario, in which the slave is being restrained and taken to another location.
Abasiophilia is the sexual interest of somebody in people with impaired mobility.
Androgyny represents a person who presents characteristics of both sexes.
Power Exchange Dynamic represents the relationship developed between a dominant and a submissive in which the dominant has total control or, if you like, authority over the submissive, also known as slave.
Gorean represents a BDSM subculture based on a BDSM themed science fiction novels written by John Norman.
Algolagnia is the practice from BDSM sessions of application of pain on an erogenous zone in order to get sexual satisfaction.
Collaring represents the ceremony or ritual in which a slave receives a collar from his mistress symbolizing their commitment to a BDSM relationship.
Play piercing is a BDSM activity that involves piercing the skin using needles in order to get a temporary sensation or body decoration.
A Service-oriented submissive, or slave if you like, is a submissive partner who loves serving and pleasing the dominant partner, the mistress.
TNG comes from The Next Generation and it stands for a younger generation of BDSM people who are focusing on education, community and inclusivity.
Caging in BDSM practice is the act of confining a person, the slave, of course, in a cage for some time.
Black Sheet Party is actually an orgy with people into BDSM.
Tribadism or tribbing is the sexual act of two women rubbing their vulvas together.
A safe call is when a slave, who is as his/her fist BDSM sessions, has a prearranged call to let a friend or family member know he/she is ok.
Pony Play is a scene in which the slave plays the part of a horse and that may include grooming, dressage, being displayed like on a parade, etc.
Figging is when a Mistress, inserts a ginger root into the slave’s anus, in the form of a finger. It causes burning sensation that bring intense pleasure to the submissive.
Female Dominance is when a woman takes a dominant role, as a mistress for instance, in a BDSM scene.
Snowballing is the practice in which through kissing, one transfers the cum from his/her mouth to another.
RACK, in BDSM, stands for Risk Aware Consensual Kink which are basically BDSM community guidelines on ways to make sure everyone is perfectly aware of the danger a BDSM activity has as a risk.
The Wartenberg Wheel is a small metal pinwheel, that is lined up with spikes which is used to be run over the genitals and other erogenous zones of the slave’s body for stimulation.
A painslut is a slave who craves pain. Basically, a painslut wants to engage in many sorts of BDSM activities that involve pain, in all of its forms.
Munch can be explained as a party or, if you like, a meeting, at a public place most of the times, where people who are into BDSM can mingle and socialize.
Bull whip is a kind of a singletail, made out of woven or leather whip, that has a short and rigid handle.
Bastinado is the BDSM act of impact play to the soles of the feet.
Rimming represents the act of licking or inserting the tongue into another person’s anus. Usually, in BDSM, this is done between two slaves.
A sadist is a person that enjoys or is sexually aroused by humiliating or inflicting pain on someone else. In BDSM practice, a sadist can be considered a Mistress who performs such a session.
Pegging represents the BDSM practice of using a strapon or a dildo for the slave’s penetration, so a female, in this case the mistress, penetrates the slave. It’s a practice that facilitates anal sex.
Interrogation Play is a BDSM practice that includes cross examination or even torture.
A spotter is the person, usually the mistress, who is monitoring the safety of the slave during complex bondage and suspension sessions.
Pansexual is the person who feels atracked to all genders and is actually open to have sex with people of any sexual orientation.
As BDSM can be dangerous regarding some activities, Protocol is a set of rules that both slaves and mistresses agree to follow. It sometimes comes in the form of a signed contract between parties.
Queening is the BDSM activity when the mistress shits on the slave’s face. It is a synonym for face-sitting.
Predicament Bondage represents a type of BDSM bondage in which a slave is being bound in an inconvenient or awkward, really uncomfortable situation.
Simply put, a roman shower in BDSM is vomiting on another person, intentionally.
We can describe the Impact Play through any form of striking the slave’s body. The mistress does this impact play with paddles, hands, riding crop, canes or whips or any sorts of instruments.
Hypno Play is a kink play in which the dominatrix, the mistress if you like, hypnotizes the slave so that he believes, in the end, that he is bonded.
A gimp is basically a BDSM suit, made of pvc, leather or plastic, that has a face covering, sometimes the genital being exposed directly. Is is used for humiliation or predicament.
Hair Bondage is a technique used in BDSM to restrain by the hair a slave. This reduces the head mobility and is done for the sensation the slave feels.
As the name says, a forced orgasm is one induced to a slave but it is against his/her will.
Financial Domination involves the slave allowing the mistress to have control over his finances and spending.
Fire Play describes the BDSM practice of using flammable liquids that are lit on fire and they are put in contact with the skin. So, it basically describes the use of fire or flames on the skin of the slave. This is a practice that requires the close supervision of a highly experimented mistress, like myself.
Glory hole is a hole that is cut into a wall and an anonymous person inserts his penis through that hole. The slave on the other side performs oral sex or masturbation to the first one.
A dungeon monitor is a person or sometimes a group of persons who supevises BDSM activities that take place in a BDSM dungeon, to make sure that all the acts are consensual and safe for those involved. A dungeon monitor is often a Mistress or a Dominatrix, if you like to call it like this.
A failsafe can be explained through an arrangement, like a „just in case”, that allows a slave to escape from bondage in case of emergency.
A BDSM dungeon is a special designed place where BDSM activities take place. This can be a room or a special studio, and it has many BDSM instruments, furniture and accessories.
Domestic in BDSM describes the act in which the slave serves in a home by cooking, cleaning and running the household. Keep in mind that this may or may not involve any sexual activity of any sorts.
In BDSM acts, after a session is over, aftercare is like, the emotional and physical care administered by the Mistress (Dominatrix, Domina) to the slave, in order to prevent more emotional after effects. It prevents the slave from having a drop, especially on the psychological side.
Abrasion Play represents the use of something rough, a brush, sandpaper or anything else that is abrasive in order to provide stimulation to the slave.
Electro is a term that depicts the kink play involving electrically-charged objects like stun guns, cattle prods or violet wants…
Edge Play describes the BDSM acts that are to be considered the most dangerous and intense. Edge Play can lead to a real physical harm like blood, knives, rope or breath play. This requires a professional mistress’ supervision and needs to be handled with care.
Dollification means the turning of a slave into a living doll. This means that the slave will wear rubber suites, dresses, stiletto heels, makeup and so on… He or she will be treated as an object.
Compersion is a term that describes the opposite of jealousy, meaning that someone is actually pleased to see that his/her partner is getting sexual pleasure from someone else than him/her.
A cruise party represents the set up of a party in order to bring people together who may actually be interested in hooking up with others for play.
A clover clamp si a special nipple clamp that comes with a clever mechanism to which a chain is attached in such a way that pulling it increases the actual pressure on the clamp.
Chemical play is the BDSM practice in which chemicals are used in order to produce a certain sensation. Amongst these chemicals, you can find ginger, peppermint, tiger balm, toothpaste, rubbing alcohol, menthol, wintergreen oil or Tabasco sauce.
CBT comes from Cock and Ball Torture which is an act of pain inflicting and torturing a slave’s genitals through various techniques such as kicking, squeezing, smacking, needles being inserted in the scrotum or penis, punching, slapping or using small amount of electricity.
Blackbooting is a term used in BDSM that describes the practice of a slave using a shoe’s heel as an anal dildo. This can be a risky practice and should be done with caution and it is recommended to be done in the presence of a highly experimented Mistress.
Bladder control or Bowel control is requiring the slave to ask for Mistress’ permission before going to toilet or the act of eliminating pee or feeces in the Mistress’ presence or during fondling, this being an act of total acceptance of the Dominatrix in the most intimate aspects of a slave’s life.
Breath play is a BDSM form of play that involves one partner, the submissive, or the slave if you want, to have his breath controlled by the mistress. In some cases, this can include forms of choking or asphyxiation, but to a certain degree. This is why this breath play requires an experimented Mistress, that knows the limits.
Ball busting refers to the act of intense pain infliction to a man’s genitals, in this case his scrotum, by slapping, kicking, punching, caning or any similar actions. Believe it or not, this brings pleasure to the respective slave.
Animal play describes the BDSM sexual practice of the slave pretending to be an animal. This is both for the slave’s humiliation and the mistress’ grooming, amusement or affection displayed to the animal that the slave is impersonating.
Anal training is basically the process of progressively inserting larger and larger objects, like butt plugs or dildos or anything else similar, that will eventually help the anal sphincter to stretch. Many slaves go into this anal training for preparation for activities like anal fisting.
Stygiophilia can be described as a fetish that consists in sexual arousal at the thought of going to hell. The term stygiophilia comes from a combination, from Styx, a river in the underworld of the Greek mythology and philia which means love.
A person into Stygiophilia is one who thinks he’s bad and deserves to be punished for being bad and this gets him off on.
Saint Andrew’s cross is actually a BDSM furniture piece that looks like a cross in a X shape. Basically, the Saint Andrew’s cross is used during BDSM practices to restrain a slave while in a spread-eagled like position. His arms and legs are apart during this BDSM session.
You will often find this BDSM furniture piece in a BDSM dungeon. Arms, wrists, ankles and sometimes even waist are being tied, the slave facing the front or the back. If the slave is faced front, he can be teased easily as he can see what is going on, while spanking, flogging or whipping.
Someone who enjoys a primal play or even identifies as having a primal fetish or primal kink is called primal. In regards to that, this person has a tendency of behaving in an animalistic way, a rough way. It is a sexual preference that allows a primal to connect with their animal side, the inner side. It basically focuses on raw feelings evoked by impulses and urges that come naturally.
Many people find out they are primals by having this side enabled through the love for rough sex. In BDSM, usually the Mistress tempers the slave and helps him understand and embrace his need for biting, hair-pulling, grunt and growl, wrestle or scratching. Of course, the mistress is in control and the primal is her slave.
A smoking fetish is one that brings arousal through sight or a fantasy of someone smoking. Basically, one who has a smoking fetish loves to see somebody smoking tobacco or cigarettes, cigars, pipes or anything else related to these.
A smoking fetishist will see the act of smoking as having a sexual connotation. A cigarette’s shape is somehow phallic, resembling a penis and the fact that the cigarette comes close to the mouth, brings into the fetishist’s mind the act of a something like a blow job!
As a fetish, the smoking fetish itself is harmless but smoking in fact is dangerous, as it causes many types of cancer.
Squick describes the uncomfortable feeling some people have when they hear or see some kinky sexual acts like whipping, bondage, caning, scat or blood play and many other.
It is not that a squick (person) judges the act itself but it is that his/her stomach can’t handle that idea…
What’s a kinkster?
Well, a kinkster is a person who engages in different forms of sexual activities that can be considered outside of the sexual culture or norms of that respective person.
The term Kinkster is derived from the word KINK which, taken into connection to sex, is a sexual play that isn’t cisgender, heterosexual in the procreative purposes way.
BDSM is very vast and it covers many areas of sexual fantasies. One of those is the erotic humiliation that covers the sexual gratification that is being achieved through domination-submission acts.
As with any sexual practices, once boundaries are clearly established, having the consent of the submissive, the verbal humiliation fetish can be satisfied through a combination of both verbal and physical roleplay.
Small Penis Humiliation is a highly demanded form of humiliation. How does a man get his sexual gratification from humiliation?
1. He gives total control to his humiliator, in this case his mistress
2. He takes control over an insecurity he commonly feels
3. He works through some sexual inhibitions
4. He gets arousal from having complete trust in his mistress and also he can feel vulnerable, at the same time
5. He feels a release: mental, emotional and physical, most often after a long period of stress
6. He is aware at all times that this small penis humiliation is just a roleplay and he is still loved
What is a ball gag? Exactly as the name says, a ball gag is a round ball, manufactured of silicone, rubber or plastic that is used by being placed in a partner’s mouth to stop him/her from talking. It has two straps that are used to secure it on the slave’s head.
The ball gag sits behind the teeth, thus keeping the slave’s mouth open during BDSM activities like role play or bondage, for instance.
Branding in BDSM terms means the process of making a mark on the skin’s surface by burning.
Of course, the branding result can be temporary or permanent. The temporary kind of bdsm branding is often referred to as surface burn.
This, as long as it is done in a skillfull way, wil fade out in a matter of months. The thing you need to know is that this practice involves a high degree of pain.
When talking about a nostril strap we must say that it is a piece of BDSM equipment used in order to humiliate and punish the slave (submissive).
Also known as nose hook, as a part is attached to the nostrils and the other end to the head, with a strap.
A nostril strap is used to get the slave to bend the head backwards and it is an uncomfortable position for the slave and can be considered as a punisment instrument. It has to be used safely.
What is a flogging horse? Well, think of it as a piece of sex furniture that is often used in BDSM practice.
The body of the slave is positioned on the flogging horse and the dominant (the mistress) can flogg the slave in a better way, without having to bend over.
The submissive can be secured using the tethers on the flogging horse and he can receive his punishment. A flogging horse can be modified in order to have a dildo or other sex toys on it.
Keep in mind that flooging can really damage the slave’s body so the mistress who administers this kind of punishment has to know really well what and how to do it!
We can explain boot worship by an extreme love of boots. This means that a slave loves to see his mistress wearing boots, so the boots are being worn by the dominant in BDSM practice. The submissive (the slave) displays his boots worship during a BDSM session. We can say that boot worship can be associated to a certain extent to a feet fetish or a foot worship.
This is commonly found in femdom as well as among gay men. Why do slaves worship boots? That is because boots represent the feeling of power for the one who wears them.
The Toilet Slave is a person that actively participates in scat related activities as a sexual fetish. It is as it sounds: the dominant, Mistress, literally urinates or scats (defecates) on the submissive (slave). Some slaves want to receive fecal matter into their mouths. Some of them swallow and some of them don’t, it depends on each individual’s choice.
Mind Fuck can be described as a kinky play where the Dominant (Mistress) allows the submissive (slave) to actually believe that something is about to happen. Even so, the scene or that respective scene doesn’t actually happen but the submissive thinks it will. Mind Fuck comes in many ways, depending on the Mistress who performs it.
The act of a person urinating on their partner for sexual pleasure goes by the name of Golden Shower. Urinating on someone can be very arousing as it is a dominant-submissive dynamic activity and it entails a certain level of humiliation and it can be classified as a bizarre practice by some.
Slave training is a set of instructions that lead to the training of the submissive person (the slave) in a slave/master fantasy while BDSM sexual role-playing
Bondage is an activity that implies for you to be restrained using rope, duct tape or any other means that will stop you from being free to move. This also means that the slave who goes into bondage needs to trust his mistress and to know that he is safe every step of the way!
Well… first of all everything needs to start with your prior consent and, of course, to my consent as a Mistress. As long as what you wish for doesn’t put your health and/or life in danger, we can talk about it and see if we can do it or not.
This is a small list of things you can try while going into BDSM:
BONDAGE
BONDAGE TAPE
BONDAGE ROPE
SLAVE TRAINING
TOILET SLAVE
MISTRESS/SLAVE
BDSM FURNITURE
SPIRITUAL BDSM
MIND FUCK
MIND CONTROL
SPANKING
BALL GAG
BALL KICKING
BALL BUSTING
BRANDING
BRAINWASHING
Fuck Pig
Latex Dress
Latex Gloves
Latex Catsuit
Spit Fetish
CrossDressing
CrossDresser
Golden Shower (Bizarre)
Gag
Scat Play (Bizarre)
RolePlay (Kinky)
Human Toilet (Bizarre)
Toilet Play (Bizarre)
Uro (Bizarre)
Dungeon
Dom
Dominant
Mind Control
MindFulness
Medical Instruments
Medical Fetish
Medical Play
Needle Play (Extreme)
Needles
Cock and Ball Torture (Extreme)
Nipple Torture (Extreme)
Tickle Torture
Cbt
ASMR
AssHole
Ass Play
Bizarre
Extreme Domination
SPH
Small Penis Humiliation
Submission
Male Submission
Butt Plug
Verbal Humiliation
Huge Strapon
Pvc
Pony
Boot Licking
Leather Boots
Domestic Servitude
Domestic Discipline
Fisting (Extreme)
BlowJob (Kinky)
BlackMail Play
Caning
Fire Caning (Extreme)
Education
Kink Education
Rope Education
Online Education
Electric Play
Slapping
Anal Fisting
Fist
Fishnet
Women Slave
Waxing
Wax Play
Candle Wax
Farting (Bizarre)
Face Farting (Bizarre)
GangBang
Cum Eating Instruction
Cum in Mouth (KinKy)
CrushFetish
Spiritual Bdsm (Soft)
Creative Bdsm
Wrestling Fetish
Asphyxiation Fetish (Extreme)
Fetish Pvc
Fetish Mask
Huge Butt Plug
StepMother Fantasy
Boxing Fetish
Urethral Sounding (Extreme)
Trampling Fetish
Pantyhose Fetish
Sadistic Mistress (Extreme)
Hard Core (Extreme)
Sadomasochism
Breath Play
Breath Control
Food Play
Mummification
Tease & Denial
Boss Fantasy
Remote- Control Device
Well… BDSM is not for anyone… You must understand that a connection needs to be created between the Mistress and the slave. So it is more to it than you can imagine. As I already said, it is mainly about mutual trust. So, as a starting advice I can tell you that you should do your research. Don’t go into BDSM blindly… search for information or get in contact with a mistress like myself. I will gladly introduce you to this magical world!
BDSM is a word that can be tracked back to 1969. Nobody knows exactly who came up with this word but we must face it…BDSM is as old as humanity… B&D come from Bondage and Discipline and D&S come from Dominance and Submission and, finally, S&M come from Sadism and Masochism
So, BDSM stands for Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism if you want… Now… the BDSM term covers a lot of activities coming from different forms of interpersonal relationships. Mainly, BDSM is built upon TRUST between the slave and his Mistress!
Want to enter the BDSM world? I can help you! Join me in Bucharest, Romania for a BDSM session that will open your eyes to a new life! Use the contact details and get in touch with me!