BDSM GUIDE

Bdsm Faq Questions And Answers For Beginners

CBT comes from Cock and Ball Torture which is an act of pain inflicting and torturing a slave’s genitals through various techniques such as kicking, squeezing, smacking, needles being inserted in the scrotum or penis, punching, slapping or using small amount of electricity.

Blackbooting is a term used in BDSM that describes the practice of a slave using a shoe’s heel as an anal dildo. This can be a risky practice and should be done with caution and it is recommended to be done in the presence of a highly experimented Mistress.

Bladder control or Bowel control is requiring the slave to ask for Mistress’ permission before going to toilet or the act of eliminating pee or feeces in the Mistress’ presence or during fondling, this being an act of total acceptance of the Dominatrix in the most intimate aspects of a slave’s life.

Breath play is a BDSM form of play that involves one partner, the submissive, or the slave if you want, to have his breath controlled by the mistress. In some cases, this can include forms of choking or asphyxiation, but to a certain degree. This is why this breath play requires an experimented Mistress, that knows the limits.

Ball busting refers to the act of intense pain infliction to a man’s genitals, in this case his scrotum, by slapping, kicking, punching, caning or any similar actions. Believe it or not, this brings pleasure to the respective slave.

Anal training is basically the process of progressively inserting larger and larger objects, like butt plugs or dildos or anything else similar, that will eventually help the anal sphincter to stretch. Many slaves go into this anal training for preparation for activities like anal fisting.

Stygiophilia can be described as a fetish that consists in sexual arousal at the thought of going to hell. The term stygiophilia comes from a combination, from Styx, a river in the underworld of the Greek mythology and philia which means love.

A person into Stygiophilia is one who thinks he’s bad and deserves to be punished for being bad and this gets him off on.

Saint Andrew’s cross is actually a BDSM furniture piece that looks like a cross in a X shape. Basically, the Saint Andrew’s cross is used during BDSM practices to restrain a slave while in a spread-eagled like position. His arms and legs are apart during this BDSM session.

You will often find this BDSM furniture piece in a BDSM dungeon. Arms, wrists, ankles and sometimes even waist are being tied, the slave facing the front or the back. If the slave is faced front, he can be teased easily as he can see what is going on, while spanking, flogging or whipping.

Someone who enjoys a primal play or even identifies as having a primal fetish or primal kink is called primal. In regards to that, this person has a tendency of behaving in an animalistic way, a rough way. It is a sexual preference that allows a primal to connect with their animal side, the inner side. It basically focuses on raw feelings evoked by impulses and urges that come naturally.

Many people find out they are primals by having this side enabled through the love for rough sex. In BDSM, usually the Mistress tempers the slave and helps him understand and embrace his need for biting, hair-pulling, grunt and growl, wrestle or scratching. Of course, the mistress is in control and the primal is her slave.

A smoking fetish is one that brings arousal through sight or a fantasy of someone smoking. Basically, one who has a smoking fetish loves to see somebody smoking tobacco or cigarettes, cigars, pipes or anything else related to these.

A smoking fetishist will see the act of smoking as having a sexual connotation. A cigarette’s shape is somehow phallic, resembling a penis and the fact that the cigarette comes close to the mouth, brings into the fetishist’s mind the act of a something like a blow job!

As a fetish, the smoking fetish itself is harmless but smoking in fact is dangerous, as it causes many types of cancer.

Squick describes the uncomfortable feeling some people have when they hear or see some kinky sexual acts like whipping, bondage, caning, scat or blood play and many other.

It is not that a squick (person) judges the act itself but it is that his/her stomach can’t handle that idea…

What’s a kinkster?

Well, a kinkster is a person who engages in different forms of sexual activities that can be considered outside of the sexual culture or norms of that respective person.

The term Kinkster is derived from the word KINK which, taken into connection to sex, is a sexual play that isn’t cisgender, heterosexual in the procreative purposes way.

BDSM is very vast and it covers many areas of sexual fantasies. One of those is the erotic humiliation that covers the sexual gratification that is being achieved through domination-submission acts.

As with any sexual practices, once boundaries are clearly established, having the consent of the submissive, the verbal humiliation fetish can be satisfied through a combination of both verbal and physical roleplay.

Small Penis Humiliation is a highly demanded form of humiliation. How does a man get his sexual gratification from humiliation?
1. He gives total control to his humiliator, in this case his mistress
2. He takes control over an insecurity he commonly feels
3. He works through some sexual inhibitions
4. He gets arousal from having complete trust in his mistress and also he can feel vulnerable, at the same time
5. He feels a release: mental, emotional and physical, most often after a long period of stress
6. He is aware at all times that this small penis humiliation is just a roleplay and he is still loved

What is a ball gag? Exactly as the name says, a ball gag is a round ball, manufactured of silicone, rubber or plastic that is used by being placed in a partner’s mouth to stop him/her from talking. It has two straps that are used to secure it on the slave’s head.

The ball gag sits behind the teeth, thus keeping the slave’s mouth open during BDSM activities like role play or bondage, for instance.

Branding in BDSM terms means the process of making a mark on the skin’s surface by burning.

Of course, the branding result can be temporary or permanent. The temporary kind of bdsm branding is often referred to as surface burn.

This, as long as it is done in a skillfull way, wil fade out in a matter of months. The thing you need to know is that this practice involves a high degree of pain.

When talking about a nostril strap we must say that it is a piece of BDSM equipment used in order to humiliate and punish the slave (submissive).

Also known as nose hook, as a part is attached to the nostrils and the other end to the head, with a strap.

A nostril strap is used to get the slave to bend the head backwards and it is an uncomfortable position for the slave and can be considered as a punisment instrument. It has to be used safely.

What is a flogging horse? Well, think of it as a piece of sex furniture that is often used in BDSM practice.

The body of the slave is positioned on the flogging horse and the dominant (the mistress) can flogg the slave in a better way, without having to bend over.

The submissive can be secured using the tethers on the flogging horse and he can receive his punishment. A flogging horse can be modified in order to have a dildo or other sex toys on it.

Keep in mind that flooging can really damage the slave’s body so the mistress who administers this kind of punishment has to know really well what and how to do it!

We can explain boot worship by an extreme love of boots. This means that a slave loves to see his mistress wearing boots, so the boots are being worn by the dominant in BDSM practice. The submissive (the slave) displays his boots worship during a BDSM session. We can say that boot worship can be associated to a certain extent to a feet fetish or a foot worship.

This is commonly found in femdom as well as among gay men. Why do slaves worship boots? That is because boots represent the feeling of power for the one who wears them.

The Toilet Slave is a person that actively participates in scat related activities as a sexual fetish. It is as it sounds: the dominant, Mistress, literally urinates or scats (defecates) on the submissive (slave). Some slaves want to receive fecal matter into their mouths. Some of them swallow and some of them don’t, it depends on each individual’s choice.

Mind Fuck can be described as a kinky play where the Dominant (Mistress) allows the submissive (slave) to actually believe that something is about to happen. Even so, the scene or that respective scene doesn’t actually happen but the submissive thinks it will. Mind Fuck comes in many ways, depending on the Mistress who performs it.

The act of a person urinating on their partner for sexual pleasure goes by the name of Golden Shower. Urinating on someone can be very arousing as it is a dominant-submissive dynamic activity and it entails a certain level of humiliation and it can be classified as a bizarre practice by some.

Bondage is an activity that implies for you to be restrained using rope, duct tape or any other means that will stop you from being free to move. This also means that the slave who goes into bondage needs to trust his mistress and to know that he is safe every step of the way!

Well… first of all everything needs to start with your prior consent and, of course, to my consent as a Mistress. As long as what you wish for doesn’t put your health and/or life in danger, we can talk about it and see if we can do it or not.

This is a small list of things you can try while going into BDSM:

BONDAGE
BONDAGE TAPE
BONDAGE ROPE
SLAVE TRAINING
TOILET SLAVE
MISTRESS/SLAVE
BDSM FURNITURE
SPIRITUAL BDSM
MIND FUCK
MIND CONTROL
SPANKING
BALL GAG
BALL KICKING
BALL BUSTING
BRANDING
BRAINWASHING
Fuck Pig
Latex Dress
Latex Gloves
Latex Catsuit
Spit Fetish
CrossDressing
CrossDresser
Golden Shower (Bizarre)
Gag
Scat Play (Bizarre)
RolePlay (Kinky)
Human Toilet (Bizarre)
Toilet Play (Bizarre)
Uro (Bizarre)
Dungeon
Dom
Dominant
Mind Control
MindFulness
Medical Instruments
Medical Fetish
Medical Play
Needle Play (Extreme)
Needles
Cock and Ball Torture (Extreme)
Nipple Torture (Extreme)
Tickle Torture
Cbt
ASMR
AssHole
Ass Play
Bizarre
Extreme Domination
SPH
Small Penis Humiliation
Submission
Male Submission
Butt Plug
Verbal Humiliation
Huge Strapon
Pvc
Pony
Boot Licking
Leather Boots
Domestic Servitude
Domestic Discipline
Fisting (Extreme)
BlowJob (Kinky)
BlackMail Play
Caning
Fire Caning (Extreme)
Education
Kink Education
Rope Education
Online Education
Electric Play
Slapping
Anal Fisting
Fist
Fishnet
Women Slave
Waxing
Wax Play
Candle Wax
Farting (Bizarre)
Face Farting (Bizarre)
GangBang
Cum Eating Instruction
Cum in Mouth (KinKy)
CrushFetish
Spiritual Bdsm (Soft)
Creative Bdsm
Wrestling Fetish
Asphyxiation Fetish (Extreme)
Fetish Pvc
Fetish Mask
Huge Butt Plug
StepMother Fantasy
Boxing Fetish
Urethral Sounding (Extreme)
Trampling Fetish
Pantyhose Fetish
Sadistic Mistress (Extreme)
Hard Core (Extreme)
Sadomasochism
Breath Play
Breath Control
Food Play
Mummification
Tease & Denial
Boss Fantasy
Remote- Control Device

 

Well… BDSM is not for anyone… You must understand that a connection needs to be created between the Mistress and the slave. So it is more to it than you can imagine. As I already said, it is mainly about mutual trust. So, as a starting advice I can tell you that you should do your research. Don’t go into BDSM blindly… search for information or get in contact with a mistress like myself. I will gladly introduce you to this magical world!

BDSM is a word that can be tracked back to 1969. Nobody knows exactly who came up with this word but we must face it…BDSM is as old as humanity… B&D come from Bondage and Discipline and D&S come from Dominance and Submission and, finally, S&M come from Sadism and Masochism

So, BDSM stands for Bondage Discipline Sadism Masochism if you want… Now… the BDSM term covers a lot of activities coming from different forms of interpersonal relationships. Mainly, BDSM is built upon TRUST between the slave and his Mistress!

Want to enter the BDSM world? I can help you! Join me in Bucharest, Romania for a BDSM session that will open your eyes to a new life! Use the contact details and get in touch with me!

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