What is orgasm denial or, in other words, orgasm rejection? Well, erotic sexual denial is a common BDSM sexual practice or even a sex play that can be described as a situation in which a male is being kept in a heightened state of sexual arousal for a long period of time without reaching orgasm and can sometimes be associated with sexual bondage. This practice, the erotic sexual denial, may be considered as a variant for orgasm control.
Sexual denial or rejection can be considered a kink and may be translated into the reduction or deprivation of all genital stimulation. In order to be make sure that there is a complete absence of genital stimulation, a mistress can use a chastity device (cock cage, ball rings) on her male slave that would be considered as a barrier for physical contact, genital touch or even full erection.
Tie and tease
Physical restraints are commonly used in BDSM, in order to be able to fully control an orgasm of a male partner in this kind of kinky sex games. Bondage practices are being used and they are typically called „tie and tease” and are seen as an extended tease and also as parts of denial sex games, also known as rejection kink. A mistress that is concerned about the well being of her slave would always communicate with her slave in order to agree on the practices used in this kink. This part of orgasm rejection, the tie and tease thing, are psychologically intense as the powerful feelings of sexual frustration are being escalated by the cruel sensation of helplesness produced by bondage.
Tease and denial
We will now discuss the tease and denial practice, that describes a person, usually a male, being stimulated close to orgasm. At a certain point, the stimulation is stopped, as the slave is on the brink of orgasm. This can be called „edging” or „edge play”. What is the difference between tease and denial and orgasm control? As opposed to orgasm control, during tease and denial, there is no promise of orgasm at the end.
There is a type of situation called „ruined orgasm”, oppose to „denied orgasm” (also known as „blue balls”), when the orgasm occurs after removal of stimulation, as it brings less pleasure than usual. Slaves can be repeteadly tease up to the point of orgasm, several times, but without reaching the actual orgasm. This can cause feelings of high, intense arousal and psychological need.
Total denial (full rejection kink)
Total denial can be seen as a type of a rejection kink because it involves total avoidance of cock and balls stimulation or vulva, if the slave is a female. This can be achieved by using a physical barrier like a chastity belt. You must know that these chastity belts are available for both men and women. Sexual arousal, though, can be possible regardless of this physical barrier, depending on the type of chastity belt used.
Male strap-on harness
Some mistresses allow the subject to wear a strap-on dildo to still allow penetrative vaginal sex to the female (the mistress). I NEVER HAVE ANY KIND OF SEX with my slaves, so keep that in mind. The technique I am talking about, the strap-on dildo, is distinct from pegging, because the strap-on replaces the male penis. This can be seen as a full rejection because the slave is not allowed to use his cock throughout the whole play duration, this being seen as a form of teasing. Some of the slaves that go into this practice can suffer from premature ejaculation. So, in this case, you can opt for another kink, that of the cum eating instructions that the mistress can perform on the slave. So, if he ejaculates, you can make him eat his own cum.
This orgasm denial is a way of orgasm control that is often used in the feminization kink, The dom will often deny the submissive sexual release in order to maintain his heightened state of sexual arousal, as part of erotic humiliation.